30 Couples Check-In Questions for a Calm Weekly Talk
Pick a calm time, not in the middle of a disagreement. Each of you pulls two cards and answers. Listen without fixing. Ten to twenty minutes is plenty. If a card brings up something heavy, it's fine to agree to come back to it.
1What's one thing I did this week that you appreciated?
2What's been the hardest part of your week?
3Is there anything you've been wanting to say but haven't found the moment?
4What would help you feel more supported this week?
5When did you feel closest to me recently?
6What's one small thing we could do differently at home?
7What are you looking forward to that we could plan together?
8Is there something I said this week that landed wrong?
9What's one way I could make your mornings easier?
10How are you sleeping, really?
11What's something you need more of right now?
12What's something you need less of right now?
13When we disagree, what helps you calm down?
14What's one thing we argued about that we never finished talking about?
15How do you like to be comforted when you're stressed?
16What's a memory of us that always makes you smile?
17Is there a chore or task that feels unfair right now?
18What's one thing you'd like us to stop doing?
19What's one thing you'd like us to start doing?
20How are we doing with money, from your point of view?
21What's something about you that you wish I understood better?
22What does a good evening together look like to you?
23Who in our lives do you want to see more of?
24Is there anything you're worried about for us?
25What's one goal you'd like my help with?
26What's a small way I could show love that you'd notice?
27What did your family do in arguments that you don't want us to do?
28What should we celebrate this week?
29On a scale of 1 to 10, how connected do you feel this week? What would add one point?
30What's one thing you love about us right now?
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